The big question and ongoing debate in my gay world is...Can a gay girl who’s in a relationship meet and have other gay girl mates???? Now this was one of the big factors to my breakup believe it or not, there i was smack bang in a full time lovely relationship and without realising it i had drifted away from any gay mates i had. It was a nightmare if i tried to make an effort with any of my existing gay mates let alone branching out and making new gay friends. I tried to explain to my girlfriend i wasn’t interested in meeting anyone else as i was very much in love with her but thought it was important to have other mates, gay and straight. She wasn’t TOO keen. I remember once chatting to a mutual friend of ours one night who happens to be gay and let me stress not my type; never the less i HAD to sleet in the corridor that night!
It seems that your either single with gay girl mates, or in a relationship with none! And in my book this sucks gg ass! I mean what’s wrong with having trust and ur own mates. Let’s face it a lot of cheating and sleaze does happen on the gay scene but not all gay girls are like that. I’m not for one!!!
I actually came to the conclusion in my relationship if i wanted to branch out and make some more gg mates i couldn’t be in a relationship with my gg. I mean there was more to the breakup than that, but it definitely contributed. I mean my personality is all about the mates, and i realised if she can’t trust me then i can’t do it. I like to think i break the gg mould a little bit, I’m not a serial cheater or after the next best thing on the scene but i do like making new friends. I made the classic mistake of putting all my gg eggs in one basket with my ex, when we split their i was left as billie gay mates.
So i warn you gg’s if you’re in a relationship make sure you make time for your friends still, if she doesn’t like it you need to explain you have to have friends time.
Now I’m single it’s amazing, i can talk to who i want when i want and see my mates on a regular basis. However it’s important that when ur chatting to other gay girls and you only want friendship to make it clear as it can get a little confusing.
Moral of tonight’s blog, you can never have enough mates, although know your boundaries and make sure you’re with a cool girl that trusts you.
Want to hear from you gg’s, are u in an intense relationship wanting other gay mates but scared your misses will turn into a right mentalist, or are u worried your girlfriends making friends and getting up to more? Wow suddenly i feel like Jeremy Kyle/jerry Springer! How cool would that be though a gg jezza? hahah
Lots of love gg
Xx
